Good Day Everyone!
I hope that you had a wonderful week and are ready to tackle a new one with new goals and aspirations!
Might I just add, I have a sense of giddy euphoria as I begin to write this week’s blog installment, I am being lulled by the gentle pitter patter of RAIN with every key stroke.
Why am I excited about rain you ask?
We have been in quite a drought here in Niagara and literally tumbleweeds were going to start blowing through, crops are dying on the vine, but today we have gotten a bit of reprieve and I am truly grateful. OK now onto today’s topic!
As I outlined rather creatively I might add in my very first blog that started out this whole blog thing (didn’t read that one, no worries here is a link https://dinaarsenaultblog.wordpress.com/2016/03/28/the-unpredictability-of-my-crazy-life/ ) I am over 40 and single. Being single in your 40’s is soooooo much different than being single in your 20’s or even 30’s. First of all, being in my 40’s I really don’t put up with nearly an iota of what I did in my younger years. I have a damn good BS meter and it is on turbo speed ya’ll!
Where do you even meet ‘eligible bachelors’ around here anyways?
It doesn’t help that I have been out of the ‘game’ for quite some time and I kinda feel like Little House on the Prairie’s Laura Ingalls being time warped to 2016. (OK, I am not quite a pioneer woman novelist, but you get my point) The ‘game’ certainly has changed and I am not sure I agree with a lot of the rules!
OK, let’s delve into dating sites shall we, because that seems to be the ‘way to meet people’ nowadays as EVERYONE has been telling me.
Ahhh Plenty of Fish, what a crazy, innuendo filled, carnival of pick up lines, rude comments, dick pics and false advertising you have been…The #1 site for relationships you say???? What EXACTLY is your definition of relationship POF huh?
Don’t even get me started on Tinder and the latest online dating craze of ‘ghosting’, (the act of someone you have been talking too all of a sudden falling off the face of the earth, refusing to answer texts, emails, messages etc for no reason.) That can be another blog post all on its own. No seriously it can be…Now back to POF…
Sure I thought I had met some decent enough guys, had very normal conversations and then WHAM, wanna sext? Send me some nudes… Wanna hook up? Ummmmmm NO!
Don’t get me wrong I am not a prude by any means, but call me old fashioned, if I haven’t even met you in person why would I want to see your nether regions or show you mine while you tell me what you would like to do with them? What happened to getting to know someone, really building up a rapport, dating, courting if you will, to see if it could lead somewhere? I feel like an alien living in a world full of meaningless hookups and anonymity. I know the irony of all of this since I work in social media, but I guess since I am in that world all day, I want to take my own life offline and get to know people the old fashioned way, face to face. Even I counsel my clients that although building relationships online is very important, at some point you need to take them offline for the benefit of your business, and in my case my love life.
In a world full of technology, I am feeling the call of person to person. We as humans need interaction with other humans, it is in our DNA. It is like we have lost the art of conversation without the use of a smartphone, tablet or laptop. What happened to picking up the phone and actually… gasp, calling someone? Have we become so reliant on ‘tools’ to communicate or have we all just become lazy or just plain too busy to put in the time and commitment it takes to build a truly meaningful relationship?
Clearly, I don’t have all the answers, I am still trying to navigate this myself. What I have learned from life and from my failed relationships, is what I will and will not accept of myself and of someone who I potentially want to begin a relationship with:
- There must be mutual respect given between both of us not only in the beginning but throughout the relationship.
- Good Communication MUST be practiced and maintained always, even if the conversations are hard.
- Never lose the art of having fun and laughing together.
- Feeling comfortable in our own skins, flaws and all.
- Being supportive of each other’s goals and dreams even if you may not agree or understand them.
- Passion in life and for each other.
- Compassion for others and the world in which we live.
- Always growing and evolving as people and as partners in the relationship together.
Will I find all of these things in a potential partner? I sure as hell hope so! I am not looking for perfection, just perfect for me and I will do the same for my potential mate as well. That has been the true meaning behind the last 8 1/2 years of my journey of self discovery; healing and looking deep within myself for the answers of who I am and how I want to evolve to be the better woman not only for me but for my future life partner.
So here I am putting pen to paper so to speak, and putting it out into the universe who and what I am looking for in my life. There I go, releasing you out into the ether. Here is hoping the universe is actually listening and is not waiting for a WIFI hot spot to pick up 😛
Thank you once again for coming along and reading my ramblings for another week!
It never goes unnoticed and unappreciated. I would love to hear you comments and feedback, what is your opinion on dating in 2016? Is it too superficial or can you still find those nuggets of realness but you just have to look hard enough?
Can’t wait to hear what YOU all have to say!
Until we meet again,
Love & Light I send to you all always!