Hello My Fellow Blog Lovers & Followers!
What an unbelievable week it has been! World events that have shaken most of us to the core, new influx of potential clients coming down the pipe while trying to fit all of that in with life, exercise, my new daily rituals and now making time for that certain special someone newly entering my life. (Yes THAT kind of someone, suffice it to say, I am dating someone and it is lovely, fun, exciting, comforting and sexy and all other things mixed in. But, that is for another blog to come down the road :P)
What I have noticed that has given me solace in this craziness, has been taking the time to just be – present, with my own thoughts in silence.
Allow me to explain…
I FINALLY took the time and money to invest in a space that is just for me. The basement has been an unused area of the home relegated to furniture storage and the varying layers of cat hair and dust that can accumulate in one given space. (Note: not gonna lie it’s a freaking shit tonne!) Bought a TV and stand and relocated the furniture to create a very cozy and intimate seating area that is both inviting and clean from my countless hours of dusting, vacuuming and removing unwanted stuff. So clean that Rachel Epp of Misses Clean would indeed have been proud of my cleaning expertise! Rachel, If you are in need of any cleaners just let me know 😛
But I digress…
So I know what you are thinking – “Dina so you created a freaking TV room, big deal, hardly blog worthy my dear!” That on the surface I would have to agree with you, but what I have noticed is my level of impatience and anxiety has dropped since. When you are an adult back living with your parents, having a space you can retreat too is even more significant for your over all well being with not only yourself, but with your parental roommates as well. Inevitably, you are going to get on each others nerves whether its who left the toothpaste lid off, who didn’t put their dishes in the dishwasher or having to watch the same episode of Murder She Wrote for the 100th time (no seriously, that struggle is real) Having a space you can retreat too allows your to sit with your thoughts, think, reflect or just escape into the cinematic world of an Android box. All of this has allowed me to just exhale and well just BE.
Always being on, especially with what I do for a living has left me in a heightened state of alertness – brain always moving, thinking, strategizing, analyzing and well as a result exhausted with little to no patience left for anyone let alone those whom you live with and love.
Being able to just sit with your thoughts in silence, not analyzing them or working through them but instead just allowing them to be, definitely is a practice I need to work on. I started this meditative practice with my recent yoga study stint with Yoga Truly but due to my old coping patterns creeping back in along with finances, I unfortunately have taken a short sabbatical. But, when I did allow myself to breathe and just be, this wave of calm and peace would fall over me. I miss this. I never knew how much until now.
We are all so busy just trying to get through this thing called our lives that we forget to take a moment, to breathe and truly allow ourselves to just LIVE!
Taking time for your own self care is not selfish, it is necessary for your overall well-being. Sadly, for most women like myself it has become something we have just taken for granted we will do once sometime or someday is taken care of first.
Having this little space has taught me that my time for self care is now. Sometimes you just need the sounds of silence to remind you.
I encourage you to find your space whether they are at home, a local hangout, coffee shop, park bench or hidden hideaway. Take these moments of silence and allow yourself to hear your own deafening sounds of well being and stillness so you to can learn to live a truly extraordinary life filled with calm and beauty.
And who doesn’t want that right!?
Thank you once again for coming along on this blog journey with me, your taking the time to read my weekly ramblings and your continuous support does not go unnoticed or unappreciated. But before we go, I would love to know, what do YOU do for your own self care?
What activities or practices do you participate in to give you a state of zen and self care? I can’t wait to hear your answers!
Until then, love and light I send to you always,