Hello My fellow blog lovers and supporters,
Is it hot in here or are you all just beautiful sexy beasts!?
I think it’s both really 🙂
Hot and steamy weather is here with a vengeance and quite frankly I am pleased as punch to see it.
I was recently reminded of a quote from Socrates – YES Socrates I read folks 😛 that said,
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
I found so much intrigue, insight and a slight bit of comfort after reading this quote.
Allow me to explain…
As my 45th birthday is drawing closer I find that I am looking back on what I have done, what I have dreamed of doing and what I feel I have yet to accomplish and I am drawn to some “what could have been’s” or basic “what if’s’ if you like. Now, this is always a dangerous territory to go down for anyone of any age – Nostalgia is not a bad thing in of itself until you use it as a means to compare, then it can become deadly.
Comparison is the thief of joy as they say, (they being good old Teddy Roosevelt) and he could not have been more right. If we are constantly comparing ourselves to the past or even others, we are in essence robing ourselves of the motivation and focus to go after our dreams in the present. ie, ‘I have already failed so why bother’, or ‘I will never be good enough to achieve that.’
This has been my usual cycle and I believe one of the reasons I have not gone after everything that I have wanted to. But, this is where I am going to buck the ‘Millennial’ parenting phase of telling their kids they can be ANYTHING that want to be in this world – Sorry I believe this is a load of shit. I mean, what if I wanted to be a mermaid – Your advice to me would be, ‘if you try hard enough and believe it, you will achieve it.” Ummmmm K …
Don’t get me wrong, I do believe in going after your dreams, of course I do! But, what I believe is that you can TRY to be anything you want to be in this world, but there is no guarantee you will achieve it. After you have tried all of your avenues and are no way closer to achieving your dream, it may be time to reevaluate or pivot if you will. (Hence the title of this blog – See what I did there) 😛
Pivoting is not giving up, it is merely trying it from another angle or being open to having another dream enter into your consciousness that you may never have considered before. Being open to change or new opportunities is pivotal in navigating these choppy waters called our lives. Each of us has a course to navigate but it is up to you to steer the ship in the best way possible to reach your destination. You may hit choppy patches and have to redirect your course, but in the end you still will reach your destination, so what does it matter as long as you get there right!? (OK enough of the nautical theme – Sheesh I guess since I live in a canal side town I am influenced) 😛
Take me for instance, I had written in a previous post about how your dreams can change in life and that is OK (If you haven’t read it here it is so you are up to speed https://dinaarsenaultblog.wordpress.com/2016/09/13/dream-on/
And I still believe this, vehemently. But, what I have really noticed is that the pivot can in essence bring you back to where you first began as well, which is me in a nutshell at the moment – My desire to write and create films has been ignited once again in me and I am both scared but excited at the prospect!
You see, I have felt this restlessness for quite some time and I finally figured out what has been eating at me – I have been living a safe secure life, making the ‘right’ choices for my life because that was the responsible thing to do, what was expected of me. To sum it up – I’m bored or unmotivated in my life. I have not honoured the very core of who I am, a creative being yearning for the opportunity to create and tell the human story on a grander scale. Don’t get me wrong, I am not angry or bitter as I do believe that everything does happen for a reason and I needed to go through this ‘pivot’ to bring me back to what was lacking in my life – Telling the human story cinematically. There I said it, I put it out into the ether, can’t take it back now! I don’t know what capacity this will take in my life, but I do know that it will be a part of it and that is huge revelation at this point. I do love what I do in social media, I do very much, and quite honestly I am proud to say I am damn good at it – But, it is not enough and I can no longer pretend that it is.
Will you be seeing my big name in lights, maybe, but until then I will be seeing you each and every week right here 🙂
Thank you all once again for taking the time to read and support my ramblings and shenanigans each week, it does not go unnoticed or unappreciated. Before I leave you, let me ask you this, have you had to pivot in your life? Was it a positive experience?
I can not wait to hear your answers!
Until we meet again,
Love & Light Always